Has anyone ever had multiple family members in a scuffle so you know you are going to get dragged in ? Pretty much everyone probably has am I right? Well maybe it’s happened more than once to you and one of those times you knew you were gonna get dragged into it but the difference was or is that you were ok with it……..
Speaking from experience we know no one is perfect and everyone will hurt somebody or people maybe unintentionally but…… when it repeats and they do NOT change their actions but Matthew 5 : 11 – 16 says-
11“Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its salty taste, it cannot be made salty again. It is good for nothing, except to be thrown out and walked on. 14 “You are the light that gives light to the world. A city that is built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 And people don’t hide a light under a bowl. They put it on a lampstand so the light shines for all the people in the house. 16 In the same way, you should be a light for other people. Live so that they will see the good things you do and will praise your Father in heaven.
The enemy will come to try and stop you from shining your light. The enemy will even go as far as to use family, friends or people who aren’t blood but are family to do that more than once he will do it over and over but remember Matthew 5: 11 – 16. It may be hard to do because it will hurt especially from family. Also it is ok to cut family out if it is dangerous to you and they are toxic; but that doesn’t mean you harden your heart because of it or towards anyone it does Not do any help to anyone especially yourself.
This is something I am working on doing and coming back from.
Yes it is hard and hurts when people say things or do thing to you like throw insults especially family or friends or people you respect. The way that others treat you when they think no one is around or whenever they treat you horrible shows the real them. Something I have to remind myself is that – Hurt people hurt people. It may be cheesy but I have come to experience it is true. Sometime family is hurting and they think well they are family they have to love or forgive me so they take it out on you or you are the closest one at the moment. Them treating you like that shows their true character.
Also it is not always best to keep things bottled up and not tell people. Sure you don’t know how others are going to respond but you bringing something to their attention or letting them know IN A RESPECTFUL CORRECT WAY then it is on them how they respond. But you did everything you could and it has been my experience at least with the right people some family some Not. That the correct people will respond right and sometimes they don’t even realize they are doing it. When you bring it to their attention then the ball is in their court it is up to them on their reaction and if they fix it or not but if you did it in the right way and making sure you pray about it with God then your conscience should be clear.
Family fights can be messy, bad, not good but sometimes things need to be said. Also some people may be biased or not be looking at both sides which makes it worse but some things need to be said and discussed.
As someone who is currently going through a family fight and being brought into it I have realized that somethings on my part need to be said since I am gonna get brought into it anyway. NOW I just need to make sure I address it correctly and pray about it before I discuss this. I have found sometimes it helps to write down what you want to say ahead of time so you can look at it and figure out how to word it and not blurt it out but to discuss with God before and be ready.
Just something currently on my mind.